Oct '23 in General discussion
Are you in the wrong career?
Summary:
Aligning Values and Desires:
To lead a fulfilling life, it's essential to align your values with your desires. When your values and goals are in sync, you can tackle meaningful challenges step by step, leading to a sense of fulfillment.
Shifting Hierarchy of Values:
Your hierarchy of values can change over time due to various influences, including upbringing, experiences, and role models. What you desire and prioritize can evolve as you grow, and it's crucial to be aware of these shifts.
Desire as a Motivator:
Deep, intrinsic desire is a powerful motivator that helps overcome procrastination and fuels dedicated efforts. External pressures or expectations can lead to burnout and unhappiness if they don't align with your true desires and values. It's important to fully understand and embrace your chosen path for lasting satisfaction.
Video Transcript:
We've got all these voids that creates our desires,
to shape our actions, to go and achieve.
When we have our values that aligns, to chase those
voids, that has meaningful challenges that we can step by
step overcome and gives us fulfillment, that's probably the best
path to continue in life for me.
Normally my hierarchy of values is pride.
And I know it sounds bad, but
greed I just want to preface this. Nothing is bad.
It's how you use it.
It's like all your values are double edged sword.
Everyone has traits of all of the values talked about.
It's how you use it and how
you benefit other people and yourself.
That makes it good or bad.
And also when you actually take a step back and look
at all the events that have actually happened, there is as
much good and also there is as much bad in every
single event that has happened in your life.
The reason why you see certain events as bad in
your life, for example, there is a past negative perceived
event that happened to you that you haven't consciously gone
back and seen positive sides of that because if you
actually go and look back at it, everything's synthesized very
well and there's really just one thing.
The universe is trying to synthesize everything
and basically just give you teachings and
learning and it's a feeling of love.
And the reason why people have so much fear
and anxiety is because these past experience often project
to the future and then they start to think,
okay, this bad thing's going to happen to me,
this bad thing's going to happen to me.
And they have this ongoing fear and stress and
it's a really bad cycle to be in because
your mind just keeps on thinking back right in
the past this bad thing has happened to me.
Why didn't that positive thing happen to me?
And then in the future they'd be like, oh my goodness,
these positive things are not going to happen to me and
then these bad things are going to happen to me.
And then the mind just never are able
to be present and actually do something about
it to impact their future successes chances.
That's like a crux of the overcoming
exam stress, fear and anxiety module.
Anyway, you keep going.
Sorry I interrupted you.
So obviously with the greed that has been my driver,
deep down I know what I'm capable of achieving and
I don't want to prove those people wrong. Obviously.
Since my exams have finished, I feel like
the other hierarchy is sloth, especially gluttony.
Instant gratification has slowly creeped up
and I'm thinking of my awareness.
I think it's because my exams are specifically
over that if my brain is feeling like
there's less to do, is more empty.
So my brain is trying to
fill that out with instant gratification.
TikTok is a thing that I never used before the exam.
Ever since exams are finished.
I'm on that four, 5 hours a day and I put deep
down my brain is like this is a waste of time.
But my brain can't justify oh, you finished these
exams, you deserve that break, you've passed the exams
out, you got a month to medical school stuff,
why not relax for the hard body?
It's one of those weird things.
And my question is it normal that hierarchies
of highest value, they shift over time?
Very interesting question.
In short, I would say yes, because then you really look
deep within and go where does my values come from?
That's really the deepest question, right?
And when you really look at it, it comes
from a few places, it comes from your upbringing.
When you're a child there are
certain perceived voice that you've had.
If I had that as a teenager or
as a child, that would be great.
Or there's an event like maybe your parents, your
siblings or your relatives said something to you, did
something to you, they have something you don't have
and you're like I want that.
Or you've seen some role models that they have some
sort of traits or some sort of successes that you
don't yet see in yourself and these create voids.
Then often this continues to build, it
becomes something you chase in your
adolescence years, like now and then in your adult years.
So, for example, your desire to get into med
school probably has been a complex interactions of all
the events that have happened ever in your upbringing
and also how your values have shaped.
And that also mixed in with your own genetic
epigenetics and all of the things that shape who
you are and your temperament and everything.
And with all the environment stuff that happens to
you that has created void, a huge void of
I want to get into med school.
Otherwise you wouldn't without of anyone's as
a teenager, you wouldn't have given up
so much time to just do study.
You could have been on TikTok, you could have
gone out and did drugs, you could have gone
and dropped out of school, you could have done
any of the above but you didn't because you
were chasing that huge void with a huge desire.
Is that correct?
That kind of proves time and time again like
people who have that drive have that desire.
It's great because once you cultivate that
desire you will do anything and everything
to try and achieve a goal.
When looking back to yourself, you probably don't procrastinate
a lot because when you have a sufficient big
enough desire you just go and do what's required.
The problem is when people are looking
at procrastination they go online and go
what are ten hacks to beat procrastination?
It doesn't help because they don't
fix an underlying deeper problem.
I released a YouTube video called now.
It's called Nine Principle of how to
get ahead of 99% of students.
The core thing I talk about is desire.
There's no amount of study techniques, no amount
of techniques of procrastination can really help you
overcome the thing that you're trying to overcome.
For example, procrastination.
It's a coping mechanism.
People procrastinate because they don't
have a deep enough desire. And why?
To chase what they want to chase.
It's basically the society, the teachers, the preachers,
the parents, everyone else that is instilling in
them that you should do this, you should
become a doctor, you should get AIDS.
But it doesn't come within them.
It doesn't come as an innate desire of that person.
So they will not do well.
There is so much resentment that builds up.
I hear so many cases of even my colleagues
previously, they will complete the pharmacy school degree.
They'll complete the medical school degree because
their family pressured them into doing this.
This is an external force, right?
When their family pressures them to do
this, it doesn't come from within.
What happens is they'll get that medical degree and
they'll take it to their parents and chuck it
at them and go, here's for you.
Now I'm going to go make music.
Does that kind of make sense? Huge tangent, right?
But the whole thing is we've got all
these voids that we want to achieve.
We've got all these voids that creates our desires
to shape our actions, to go and achieve.
When we have our values that aligns to chase
those voids, that has meaningful challenges that we can,
step by step, overcome and gives us fulfillment.
That's probably the best path to continue in
life, because if you continue to listen to
other people, oh yeah, completing medicine is good
for you, but you don't feel that.
And then when you become a doctor, and then
you're working 16 hours shifts, 18 hours shifts, 24
hours on calls, and then you work ten days
in a row without any breaks, and you're suffering
and you don't like that profession yourself.
That's how burnout, that's how
mental health problems build up.
And that's how all of those
people continue to be unhappy.
It's because they were not sure why
they were there in the first place.
And they do not have an exit plan because they
have sunken so much time to get into medicine and
they have not fully done the due diligence, as in
what it entails, but if you are able to be
fully aware of what's going on.
So, for example, now I
actually quite enjoy general practice.
Like, I get to choose my hours if I wanted to.
Tomorrow I can stop working if I want to.
I can choose to work two days a week.
I can choose to work 4 half days a week.
So when you have that choice and
you're actually enjoying the nature of the
work, like, life just becomes great.
Whenever I have a week off with my friends or
family, I actually look forward to go back to work.
That's the life path that I really want
to empower other people to be on.
Otherwise, all of the sacrifices, all of these
things, what are we doing it for?
So, like, for Christopher, if you don't know what medicine is
really going to be like, and you sacrifice all your teens
and all your hours and all your sleep and social life
and everything to try and get in, and then you realize,
oh, crap, this lifestyle is not for me.
That's why I really strongly urge for those
who really are looking into a professional career
to actually really talk to people who have
been there, not just the one person, because
they can give you different perceptions.
I can give you different perceptions, but if you talk
to 100 doctors and a lot of them are quite
happy and they're like, oh yes, this is a great
job, then it's probably a good thing that you pursue.
And then when they tell you all
these challenges, you can also analyze, okay,
I probably won't mind this challenge.
At least you've got both the positives
and the negatives already in place.
You synthesize and go, yeah, this is worth my effort.
This is what I want to pursue.
And you just have all that certainty, and then you
know what you're getting into when you're actually there as
a doctor, you don't regret you're that happy person.
And people are like, it's like a 06:00 a.m.
Ward round or 07:00 a.m. Ward round.
I was like, Why are you so happy?
I'm like, I chose to be here.
When you choose something and when you want
to be there, why aren't you happy?
So, yeah, I think that's the ultimate hack in life.
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