If you're shy around girls, Imagine how shy a girl is around you lol.

This is really only applicable if you're out of the stage where the popular girls don't think of you as worthless skinny fat loser shit.

E.g You're physically bigger, you've shown/demonstrated multiple times you're confident whether that be by answer the teacher's question in a interesting way with a confident voice, or joking around with mates, or being even "the main speaker" so you always say things first, you always initiate the conversations, so on and so forth.

This is a mental shift I've made recently, kind of a "shower thought" now that I think of it (you know those insane or billion dollar thoughts you randomly get in the shower or on a walk?)

And why I say this is a mental shift is because I still have some remnants of the old "shy and insecure, looked down upon by the popular "hot" girls me".

Meaning, whenever a girl would say something to me, or not talk to me much, or not give eye contact, I'd automatically think that they have like a perfect sense of self, high self-esteem, confident and not like "worthless" old me.

Another example would be when I was with a girl in one of my classes as a pair

(teacher did some goofy ass pairing techniques: "choose someone in the room you've never talked to before" bruh wtf)

And so this girl comes and sits next to me (although I have talked to her multiple times before).

;)

but what really perplexed me time and time again about this girl, was her unpredictable nature, it was like she wanted to talk to me, but couldn't really.

Like, saying something but not looking at me, looking at me, asking me something, hearing my response but not answering that and swapping to doing something completely different. All very kinda fast paced.

Until after I made this mental shift, I realised the ENTIRELY POSSIBLE AND PROBABLY REALISTIC realisation that,

oh shit. What if she's shy?

I mean. Look at me. Hench af. Dressed smart. Loud and confident in the classroom.

Shit. I mean. I'd be scared of me? If I was a girl? ??

So.

I know I didn't word this in the best way possible but here's the main emphasis:

Realise that if you get shy, girls prolly get more shy.

Realise that when you sit near a girl, and the girl is reserved or has a resting bitch face, she prolly doesn't hate you, could be that she's shy and wants to keep that hidden.

I mean after all, we can't see into each other's insides and view in 4k what they feeling.

All the best,

Benji

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