I had someone reach out to me this weekend and invite mine to a mastermind and i was hesitant. I was hesitant because this mastermind is for business owners who are generating north of 600k per year. I asked him I don’t think the mastermind was for me as i am nowhere near having that sort of impact on the industry. By making that assumption i had broken one of my golden rules: Go where you feel like a minion. He highlighted to me that the real win was being in the room with these guys. You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. We have all heard this before and it couldn’t be more true. We build bonds and relationships with people over the years because we are social creatures. And those relationships become comfortable. And over the days, weeks, months and years we slowly take on one another’s traits and beliefs and norms, This can be good and bad. If you are the one in the group that has done well in your career, or has gotten in shape you can inspire those around you however, if you haven’t got another group of people who are holding you to a higher standard and aren’t stretching your perceived capabilities then you may become isolated. And you being isolated can lead to you stagnating and letting your standards slip. It’s nice to be a big fish in a small pond at times but there is no growth there. So putting yourself in those situations that make you feel like a minion. A rookie is what we must all seek. What have you been putting off? What makes you doubt yourself? because that’s exactly where you attention should be. If you dare to be great, be prepared to look like a fool.

Everyone processes negative emotions the same way, the action taken might be different but the process goes like this. You think of something in the past that triggers a negative emotion, for me it was anger, and because i am in this state, i look for something to change it, it can be junk food or drugs or drink, but it could also be praying, a set of burpees, a run, a walk you get what i am saying. use training as that thing, next time your feeling like shit, bang a set of 20-30 burpees and tell me that doesn't change your mood. the issue is most people choose an action that makes things worse. recognising that all you are after in that moment is relief, and that can be done in a more productive manor.

The mental condition depression gets thrown around a lot these days. But before anyone diagnoses themselves with depression have a think about this. Are they really depressed or have they got a shit life? If you’re not in good health, have a poor family life or a none existent one, don’t have any meaningful relationships, are short on money because you are unskilled, don’t train, and aren’t doing anything for your soul and aren't tied to a community where you participate. Are you really depressed? In the past I have said depression isn’t real and the reason for that is because a lot of the time it isn’t. People aren’t looking after the areas of their lives as mentioned above. In some cases yes it’s an actual thing where there is an actual imbalance in someone’s brain. But in most cases that’s not the truth. Look at the factors I’ve mentioned above and think which of these do I need to work on. Personally I have a few that let me down and I am working on. Most people ain’t depressed they just have shit life and that can be fixed!

Most people wake up in the morning and start thinking about their problems. These problem are connected to specific memories and these memories are connected to certain people and things. Your brain is like an old tape recorder that plays the same cassette for you everyday. If your brain is a recording of the past then when you start your day you are already thinking and living in the past. How are we meant to make the most of what is ahead if we are forever fixated on the past? Before i get into that lets talk about WHY we get fixated on the past. Every memory we have is linked to an emotion and overtime we get attached to these emotions. Good and bad. This is why we get stuck in cycles of despair. If we look at our memories and examine what we feel when we think of them this is the key. The brain is powerful and we can either let it become our worse enemy or our strongest ally. So we need to shift our thinking to the future. And this requires you to use your imagination. Journalling or future casting is what i am talking about here. I am sure many of us have written down goals but we need to go a little deeper. I am going to draw on my own experience here. As you all know going to prison was the lowest point of my life. After the novelty wore off, the letters stop coming, the visits slowed down and people stopped answering the phone because they thought i was going to ask for something. (that was never the case), it was just me and my thoughts, night after night. For a while i was bitter and tried to fight my sentence, i was smoking weed and was on basic regime where i had to live on £4 per week. The day we got nicked played over in my mind for months..what if after what if... I was bitter and angry. "26 and they are taking my prime away from me?" (yeah i thought your late 20s were your prime) It was only after reading Think and Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill, that i came across this phenomena, and the craziest thing is that i had already done it before.

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