3 things to do if people don't show up to your meetings
We were sitting in silence for the past 5 minutes. Our colleague did not yet join our call. We were depending on them to give us the OK for an important initiative we were working on for the past 4 months. It took a lot of work, courage, and patience. And here we were... nothing. Not sure if this has ever happened to you, but it sure is not fun! It's wasting time, energy, and also plummets the morale of everyone. In this article you'll find practical tools to: 1. Don't get upset 2. Clarify your objectives and create a common goal 3. Make it easy for people to show up/reschedule Let's dig in! 1. Check yourself before you wreck yourself! 🤕🤕🤕😆😆😆 Getting angry is never the answer unless... the question is: What is never the answer? So, check your emotional state: Are you angry? Are you frustrated? Do you feel disappointed? Do you feel let down? Start by writing down how you feel (on a piece of paper, or any writing software - Notepad, OneNote, Word, etc.). Spend 5-10 min writing everything that crosses your mind. Get into the flow of it. It's a bit of a cathartic exercise. It will get any negative emotion off your chest and you can start going into step 2. Understand that: 1. No one owes you anything. 2. People are not actively thinking of you (a few exceptions aside). They may be busy, lazy, or maybe even uncaring. At the end of the day: It does not matter. It's their burden. Let them carry it. Don't judge. You don't know what they're going through. 3. Someone can hurt you by putting your request at the bottom of their To-Do list. Even unintentionally. Being fuzzy, unspecific, and wanting to punish the other person will not score you any points. Even though they may be wrong, no one likes to be put under the microscope. You don't either. So move on. Solution: Get on top of their mind and their To-Do list. 2. When your purpose is clear, success is very near. 😶🌫️😶🌫️😶🌫️ Ask yourself the following questions: - What's in it for me? What am I getting out of this? What do I selfishly want? - What's in it for them? What are they getting out of this? What do they selfishly want? - What do I want for the relationship?