1. Set Clear Boundaries and Expectations: Teens need boundaries, even if they push against them. Make sure they know what’s expected regarding behavior and school performance, and be consistent. Let them know that while you’re there for them as a support, certain responsibilities are non-negotiable.
2. Focus on Communication, Not Control: Instead of enforcing rules only, try focusing on conversations that invite their input and perspective. Let them know that their feelings and thoughts matter, which will encourage openness. Ask questions like, “What do you enjoy about school?” or “What do you feel is holding you back?”
3. Allow Natural Consequences: If they aren’t making an effort, let some natural consequences unfold, like getting a lower grade. Experiencing these outcomes firsthand can often motivate teens to take more responsibility for their choices.
4. Reward Effort Over Results: If their struggling to get back on track, start by rewarding the effort, not just the outcome. Praise them when they complete assignments, studies, or show responsibility, as this builds a positive association with making an effort.
5. Model Healthy Boundaries and Balance: Let them see that you care deeply but also that you have your own boundaries as his parent. A healthy balance means being a trusted support without compromising on parental guidance and structure.
6. Seek Professional Guidance If Needed: If you apply these practices consistently and don’t notice any positive results, reach out to me and we can collaborate on a personalized strategy for success with ongoing support.
*BONUS TIP*
Your child didn’t start displaying negative behavior habits overnight. And they’re not just going to be fixed overnight. Patience is of underlying importance for successfully parenting teens.