What’s more important with age?? Currently 31, three kids. Single father and I work nights. My job is a pretty good job pay is 88k -120k a year but with that being said I have to work 6 nights a week 12hr shifts one day off, Time is everything I know that I wanna spend more time with my kids but I also wanna be able to support them financially now and the future, and I also wanna have more of a social life things I tell myself. With how life is today from a financial stand point and how the dating pool is becoming which is more important as a 31 year old man is it time to lock make sacrifices for me and my kids or do I walk away from the job to get time and life back?

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So I have a girlfriend of 1 year who wants space but still wants to hang out occasionally and communicate, but her space is defined as we won't be spending the night at each other's places. What should I do?

What’s going on fellas, so I initially came to ask a question. I advise you to look at the situation from both perspectives. So I’ve brought infidelity into my marriage, we’ve been married 3 years but together for 10. I’ve been on a growth track since my last situation trying to stay focus and committed. I have to admit it’s tough coming from a womanizer (before marriage). Besides all of that, I try to do whatever it takes to not trigger the old me. So the problem I see is that she wants to work a night shift from 11pm to 7am. I strongly believe that this will trigger my older ways. As long as she’s around or I'm busy then we are good which is normally during the day. At night is like date nights or just we catching up, now she won’t be around at night. I’m low key afraid of that because I’m content with how I’ve changed for the better within the last 2 years. We’ve talked about it and I explained it to her but she insists on taking this position. See I’m not trying to be selfish because this relationship isn't just about me. Love to see a working woman but I believe a night shift isn’t suitable for a relationship with some infidelity history. So from man to man how can I handle this?