---- LESSION 4 OF 36 LESSON FOR SELF DEVELOPMENT ---- === THIS MIGHT BE A VERY IMPORTANT STEP IF YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOUR WAY. TAKE A MOMENT TO STOP AND DEFINE YOUR OWN SUCCESS, EVERYONE. === - Personal Definition of Success: Defining success for oneself is a process of personalization, in which each individual clearly identifies what brings them joy and satisfaction in life. This may include career, relationships, health, and personal passions. According to Scott Geller, a renowned psychologist, personal success is the feeling of achieving goals that you set for yourself based on your own values and desires (Upgrading Oneself). - Not Following Others' Definitions: Following others' definitions of success can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and disorientation. Everyone has different values and purposes in life. For example, for some, success might mean achieving a balance between work and life, while for others, it could mean rapid career advancement (Siachen Studios). - Discovering Your Values and Purpose: To understand what success means to you, you need to explore and clearly define your values and purpose. This helps you focus on goals that are truly important and not get sidetracked by external expectations or pressures. According to research by psychologist Carol Dweck, pursuing goals that align with personal values will bring greater satisfaction and long-term success (FicQuotes). - Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others: Comparing yourself to others can diminish your confidence and create unnecessary pressure. It’s important to remember that everyone has different circumstances and conditions, and others' success does not determine your own. As philosopher Alan Watts once said, "The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves." This underscores the importance of focusing on your own life instead of trying to achieve what others have (PINKVILLA). - Decide Your Own Success: Ultimately, you are the only one who can decide whether you have achieved your goals. This requires self-awareness and continuous self-assessment. Identifying personal milestones and achievements will help you clearly see your progress and success. According to author Steven Covey, setting clear goals and regularly evaluating them will help you stay motivated and systematically move towards success.