⚠️ IMPORTANT: The ART of GIVING FEEDBACK 🗣️
As we are diving deep into this incredible new practice and training on quite a tight schedule to start with, it is important to me, as a dedicated coach to coaches, to speak to something I keep seeing underestimated: The ART OF GIVING & RECEIVING FEEDBACK It is often expected for trainees to simply have mastered that skill of feedback already, but most of us haven't ever had a training on the art of feedback. Have you? Whats your level of understanding about skillful feeback? As if this was taught in schools (it should though, just like coaching and sales 🤩) The training setting suggested often goes something like this: 🤼 practice for 15min, 2 min for feedback then switch roles. Even though this ratio might make sense at some point way down the road when trainee is aquainted with the basics and coach and trainee know each other, it really isn't helpful whatsoever in the beginning of learning a new skill, not for the one training AND not for the other as it puts alot of pressurea on the poor sparing buddy, who likely is also just starting with this new skill. ❌ Feedback isn't advice. Too often feedback is put right next to advice. Too many people think that feedback is just telling another your "honest" opinion, no holding back, thinking we know whats best and right for them. (refrain from giving advice, instead make a suggestion or an invitation) What feedback really is: ✅ Feedback is a form of COACHING!! You see, when we have an opinion about the other, we may wanna check in with them first about their own intentions & reflections. As the observer, you are the coach to the coache on the training seat. Make sure you and them know what they want to focus on specifically in this practice, frame the feedback and reflections around this intention primarily. Ask them first 1️⃣ "How did that feel for you?", "What did you like about your performance? In regards to your intention specifically?" 2️⃣ "What felt a little off?" 3️⃣ "What will you try to improve next time?"