7 Sneaky Saboteurs: How to Stop Getting in Your Own Way

Why your brain isn’t the problem—and how to finally overcome the mental traps holding you back.

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By Dr. Heath | Shoe Leather Psychology: Cognitive Science to Improve Your Walk in Life

Let’s Open Up the Menu

Your brain isn’t out to sabotage you. It’s doing what it’s designed to do: Present you with an endless buffet of thoughts.

Some thoughts are nourishing—mental protein shakes that fuel your growth. Others? They’re more like fried Twinkies: Tempting but destined to leave you stuck and sluggish.

Here’s the real kicker: Your brain’s not the problem—it’s the choices you make about which thoughts to act on.

Today, we’re filleting seven sneaky saboteurs—those mental traps that derail even the best of us. I’ll show you how to identify them, explain the brain science behind them, and share practical tools to roast them once and for all. Ready? Let’s fire up the grill and make some progress.

Saboteur #1: Failure ≠ Forever

(Reframe: Turn “I Failed” Into “I’m Learning”)

Failure seems final, doesn’t it? Your brain loves to jump to conclusions like, “Well, that didn’t work, so maybe I’m just not cut out for this.” Here’s the truth: failure isn’t the end—it’s feedback.

The Science:

Neuroplasticity ensures your brain learns and rewires itself after every misstep. Failure literally makes your mindset stronger if you position your thought processes for it.
Social learning theory shows resilience comes from observing others and yourself overcome failure by retooling, resetting, and re-igniting.

The Rocky Road to Success:

Before founding the Ford Motor Company, Henry Ford launched two car companies that failed miserably. He lost investors, credibility, and sleep. But Ford didn’t see failure as a stop sign; he saw it as a blueprint. Those early mistakes taught him how to build a company that revolutionized transportation—and the rest is history.

What You Can Do:

Start a Failure Feedback Log. Each time something doesn’t go as planned, write down:

What happened.
One thing you learned.
One thing you’ll do differently next time.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure, regardless of ebbs and flows of enthusiasm, with no loss of forward momentum.” – Dr. Heath

Saboteur #2: The Sprint That Sabotages the Marathon

(Reframe: Fast Success Isn’t Better Than Slow Success)

Quick wins feel great in the moment. But here’s the deal: Fast success is often temporary. It’s the difference between a trendy pop song and a timeless classic.

The Science:

Immediacy bias lures your brain into craving short-term rewards over long-term sustainability.
The prefrontal cortex, your brain’s planning HQ, thrives on persistence and patience.

The Rocky Road to Success:

J.K. Rowling spent seven years writing and rewriting the first Harry Potter book. She was rejected by 12 publishers but didn’t quit. By the time the book finally hit shelves, it launched a global phenomenon. Contrast that with Theranos founder Elizabeth Holmes, who rocketed toward fame and went down in flames.

What You Can Do:

Break big goals into smaller, measurable milestones. Celebrate your progress, but keep your eye on the long game.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.” – Vincent van Gogh

Saboteur #3: The “No Better Mousetrap” Mindset

(Reframe: Progress > Perfection)

It’s tempting to believe that everything worth doing has already been done. But this saboteur keeps you from pushing boundaries and improving.

The Science:

Your brain’s functional fixedness blocks creativity, keeping you locked into old ways of thinking.
Innovation requires discomfort—and exposure to new challenges.

The Rocky Road to Success:

Elon Musk didn’t stop at building electric cars. He reimagined entire industries with SpaceX, challenging the idea that space exploration was untouchable for private companies. His drive for progress—not perfection—has reshaped industries.

What You Can Do:

Practice divergent thinking. Take one project and brainstorm five “ridiculous” ways to improve it. One of them might just spark your next big breakthrough.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” – Henry Ford

Saboteur #4: Brain Fraudcasting

(Reframe: Silence the “I’m a Fraud” Broadcast)

Ever think you’re one step away from being exposed as a fraud? That’s Brain Fraudcasting at work, amplifying sabotaging thoughts instead of facts.

The Science:

Confirmation bias filters out your accomplishments, leaving you stuck in self-doubt.
Social psychology shows upward comparisons (looking at those “ahead” of you) fuel this cycle.

The Rocky Road to Success:

Even Albert Einstein admitted, “The exaggerated esteem in which my life work is held makes me very ill at ease.” If the guy who redefined physics doubted himself, you’re in good company.

What You Can Do:

Start a Wins List. Every day, write down three things you accomplished, no matter how small. Read it when Brain Fraudcasting starts transmitting sabotaging static.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” – William Shakespeare

Saboteur #5: The Busy Fool Syndrome

(Reframe: Stop Mistaking Activity for Progress)

Busyness disguises itself as productivity, but it’s often just noise. It’s like being in a losing pinball game—just bouncing into the same low-score holes.

The Science:

Dopamine rewards activity you’ve labeled as valuable, making what you’ve fooled yourself into believing is high-value busyness feel like progress.
True productivity comes from focus and deliberate action, not multitasking.

The Rocky Road to Success:

Warren Buffett famously schedules time for absolutely nothing. No meetings, no emails—just time to think and reflect. Why? Because progress comes from clarity, not chaos.

What You Can Do:

Use time-blocking to focus on high-impact tasks. End your day with a “shutdown ritual” to review what actually moved the needle.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” – Henry David Thoreau

Saboteur #6: Perfectionism’s Paralysis

(Reframe: Done > Perfect)

Perfectionism convinces you that if it’s not flawless, it’s not worth doing. The result? Cognitive paralysis by analysis.

The Science:

Thought-sabotage-fueled overactivity in the anterior cingulate cortex makes perfectionists hyper-focused on errors, causing hesitation.
Sabotaging thoughts of being judged harshly fuel this paralysis, creating a loop of inaction.

The Rocky Road to Success:

Reid Hoffman, founder of LinkedIn, famously said, “If you’re not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.” Perfection isn’t the goal—progress is.

What You Can Do:

Set a “good enough” standard and commit to starting messy. Iterate as you go.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“Done is better than perfect.” – Sheryl Sandberg

Saboteur #7: Comparison is the Thief of Joy

(Reframe: Stay in Your Lane)

Comparison culture is like a bad buffet: Sabotaging, unhelpful, and ultimately unhealthy.

The Science:

Social comparison theory shows that comparing yourself to others often leads to cognition-based lower self-esteem and demotivation.
Focusing on your own benchmarks builds confidence and intrinsic motivation.

The Rocky Road to Success:

The Wright brothers didn’t waste time competing with others in aviation. They focused on solving their own challenges, one flight at a time, and changed the course of history.

What You Can Do:

Limit social media and track your progress against your own goals—not someone else’s highlight reel.

Mindset Recipe to Remember:

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Closing Call to Action: Your Brain Is the Buffet—Make Menu Choices Wisely

Your brain isn’t the problem—it’s the menu. Every day, you get to choose what’s on your plate. By roasting these seven saboteurs and replacing them with nutritious strategies, you can start building a mindset that’s healthy and meaningful.

So, here’s your challenge: What’s the first saboteur you’re ready to roast today?

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