24d ago in 🥰 Dating
Controlled Detonation
Screening for crazy
As one who is hiring an employee for a position wants to test an applicants response to information they do not want to hear, so should men when it comes to dating.
For example, assuming that most people do not want to work on Saturdays, asking an applicant if they would be willing to work on Saturdays will tell you several things.
1) If the applicant really wants them job and deals well with disappointment they will agree to work Saturdays. They might say that they would prefer not to, but would be willing to if that is what the job required. This is a healthy regulated response to information they are disappointed to hear.
2) If the applicant tries to negotiate to not work Saturdays then they clearly think they are on an equal playing field with the employer. They see their application as an opportunity for the employer.
3) If the applicant gets offended then you know they are a bomb waiting to exploded...
If the applicant has genuine burning desire for the job and deals well with disappointment they will respond relatively well to slightly disappointing things.
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Translating that into dating, this is why Michael talks about the importance of compliance loops.
"Hey, hold my drink for a second"
"Can you do me a favor and take 2 scoops out of that box to feed fido for me"
These are very simple things that nobody really WANTS to do, but aren't a major inconvenience.
The response to these requests will tell you a other about someones frame of the interaction.
If you watch the Whatever podcast, Brian likes to ask girls if they would bow for their boyfriend when they come home. Feminists HATE this and will argue tooth and nail about the symbolism of bowing to men being insulting, yet expect men to open doors for them...
The anti feminine woman is revolted when asked to serve or submit to or comply with requests from men in any capacity.
Taking things further, if a girl is propositioning you for a relationship and you set boundaries as to what they would be able to expect from you and what you would allow for them to do is the same concept on a more intense level.
Tell a girl that she probably would not like being your girlfriend because you are not comfortable with a girl you claim having guy friends. If she tries to tell you that the are just friends tell her to call them on speaker right now and tell them you want to sleep with them. She could legitimately believe they are effectively friend zoned for her attention and gratification, but she knows 99% of dudes will fail that test. So if she really wants the job she will comply, however the more she negotiates or tries to avoid exposing her attention minions the less burning desire she has for the job...
Tell her that you will be keeping things open on your end and expect her to keep things closed on hers and not to have guy friends and to bow when you come home... If she complies with that with a smile on her face you have a great candidate for a potential main girl.
At that point you just need to be sure she is real. Just as people get hired for 6months before a company decides to put someone in a big position to see if they maintain their performance, so should you do your due diligence to determine if she is actually happy with her position.
This is where many Red Pill content creators say that you need to date a girl for AT LEAST 1 year before deciding to marry her.
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What compliance loop tactics do you guys use in your life to determine a girls level of interest?
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