How Emotional Congruence Can Transform Your Influence Factor...

Have you ever been in a conversation where you felt like your words just weren’t landing? And no matter how hard you tried to connect with that person (or people), how many rapport building techniques you used, your words just "disappeared" into a void?

Something felt... off.

Here’s the One main potential reason: It might not have been what you were saying, or even how you formulated your words. but HOW you were feeling while saying it. Someone very wise once said, : " Energy introduces you before you speak" is true. It's also true, that "energy speaks while you are speaking"

Emotional (and energetic) congruence is when your inner emotional state aligns perfectly with your words and intentions. This IS the secret ingredient that makes your communication feel authentic, impactful, and ultimately powerful.

By "powerful", I mean, impactful. In NLP there is a saying that "the meaningh of your communication is the result you get". I always add, "the meaning of your communication gets filtered through your energetic filter"....

Take a moment to think about it: if you’re feeling insecure while trying to convince someone to trust your words, they’ll instantly sense it, even if your words sound confident. Thery are picking your energetic vibration which calibrates subconsciously.

Humans are wired to pick up on subtle emotional cues, and any mismatch between your energy and your words WILL always break trust in an instant.

Here’s a quick experiment for today (I am inviting you to take is as a fun challenge):

Before your next important conversation, pause for a moment. Ask yourself:

“What outcome do I want for this person?”
"What experience do I want to be for them?"
“Am I fully energetically connected to achieving the purpose here?” (pay attention to how you feel in your "gut")
"How do I feel about myself right now?"

If the answers generate any level of discomfort, take a deep breath and imagine what it would feel like to already have their trust, their excitement, or their commitment.

Then, speak from THAT place.

Now, here’s where it can get interesting:

Think of one specific situation where emotional congruence could have made, or broken, a connection for you? Go back to a particular sales call, a coaching session, or even a personal conversation?

Share your story below!

Sometimes, just tweaking your emotional alignment can unlock a whole new level of influence. This gives a real meaning to your words....I am curious to "hear" your thoughts!

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