I cold approached a girl in university the other day and I followed the methods, @Steph Speaks has taught me and I was able to get her to text to me saying that I hope you’ll come to the event on Thursday After the event should I introduce the girl to get some coffee or eat out on the weekend. During the event on Thursday how can I convince her to be able to hangout?

Ever feel like you’re trying everything to sound confident in conversations but somehow end up feeling worse? Here’s a bold claim: You’re likely doing something that sabotages every conversation without even realizing it. It’s so subtle that most people go their entire lives without noticing. And yet, this one trait keeps us stuck, doubting ourselves, and wondering why we can’t break free. If you’re reading this, it’s probably affecting you right now. You’re not alone – I fell into the same trap for years, thinking I just needed to “be more confident” or “try harder” in conversations. I finally discovered the real reason these quick fixes didn’t work, and I’ll share it with you here – along with how to finally let go of this one toxic trait that’s holding you back. By the end of this post, you’ll not only understand what’s causing this cycle, but you’ll have one key question to break it for good. The Misleading Social Advice Trap Let’s be clear: most social advice you hear – “Be confident!” “Fake it till you make it!” “Use these three conversation starters!” – is like putting a Band-Aid on a broken bone. These tips aren’t solving the real problem. They might give you a quick boost, but they don’t help long-term. Now, you might be thinking: “But some of those tips helped me a little… so why stop using them?” I get it. Those tips aren’t all bad, and they can work in small doses. But if they were enough, you wouldn’t still be here looking for answers, right? Those tips give temporary boosts, but they don’t create the lasting change you need. I know, because I fell for these quick fixes for years. Trying to force confidence into every conversation only made me feel worse – beating myself up when it didn’t work. And it wasn’t my fault – it’s not your fault either. Self-Judgment Projected onto Others That toxic trait? Judging others and, even more importantly, judging yourself. When you hold judgment toward yourself, it affects everything: your conversations, your confidence, your relationships.

I like a girl from my school, we are not in any class together I only see her in the hallway and to be honest I think she already notices my existence (I think she notices that I look at her a lot) (I don’t see her in a pervert way tho) the thing is that sometimes she is the one who glances at me in the hallway, I want to talk to her, ask for her number but I am not good at that language and for that same reason I can't be very authentic or trustworthy, I have tried to search for her Instagram or number, I found her name but nothing else, and the truth is I don't know if I should talk to her, I have already seen all the videos but I still don't 't think I have that life for the same reason of not understanding or speaking that language

I have started the journey of going to gym and getting into shape, still trying to figure out the routine but yesterday was an improvement from the last couple of days. I have family and friends around me motivating me into carrying out this gym grind. This is the confidence boost I needed 💪🏾.