Love's Hidden Symmetries - Bert Hellinger When The Body Says No - Gabor Mate Quiet - Susan Cain

I strive to be the absolute best partner I can be, and love learning how to love more completely and skillfully. I am excited to use this profile to find where I might still be operating from blind spots and meditate the deeper relationship dynamics at play. It is powerful to remember that the relationship I have with my partner is a unique co-creation with its own dynamics, and isn't necessarily "who i am" or "who she is". Since we are co-creating it, we can shape it and mold it into any thing we want as our desires and needs change over the years.

I think my partner and I polarize between Truth and Harmony and Possibility and Appreciation the most. When I feel triggered, I feel like I'm clinging on to Harmony and Appreciation - but it isn't obvious to me in that moment that my partner is just doing the same thing but with Truth and Possibility. When I remember that, I feel instantly like we are on the same page because I know we both deeply care about all four gifts.

I have convincing tendencies toward appreciation (91%), harmony (85%) and passion (80%) where i'm exactly in the middle on Freedom and Devotion (50%) ... which totally makes sense. So this means I should focus this week on Possibility, Truth, and Partnership. Kinda scary but exciting!

I do see the "in and down" energy in the way I handle conflict, the way I listen, and the way I lead teams in times of crisis. It adds to the impact I want to have when I want to project a strong, immovable presence without being domineering. I like that I can be my partner's "rock" and seemingly weather any storm. It takes away from the impact I would like to have when I want to be more dynamic and self expressed. I often "subtract" from the overall energy intensity in the room and sometimes that can feel like a wet blanket. I'd like to be more energizing and dynamic, without it being such an effort for me energetically, but if I allow myself to do what feels natural, my energy tends to settle back down to "in and down"