Letting your child cuss · The Parent S.P.O.T.

3d ago (edited) in General Chat/Ask the Community

Letting your child cuss

I can no longer ask my middle school students do they use that type of language in front of their parents because more often than not the answer is yes 🤦🏽‍♀️ Now I tell them just because it is acceptable in your household, does not mean it is acceptable in here. Im not going to swear around you or at you, and I expect the same.

Yesterday, a boy called a girl a b*tch and told me his mom wouldn’t care if he were defending himself. I said defending yourself from what? According to him, the girl said what do you want in a loud tone that was rude 😩 We had a reminder about appropriate responses to rude behavior and appropriate classroom language (I went over forbidden classroom words in the beginning of the year).

A lot of parents in various parenting groups say they allow their child to curse. I personally don’t understand it. Kids are always going to test boundaries, but if they don’t have any at home with their own family and siblings, it makes it harder for their teachers to enforce boundaries. They feel they should be able to say whatever to other students who annoy them because they get away with saying whatever to their siblings whether it’s cussing or being downright mean. Many don’t believe that having a foul filthy mouth in the classroom is disrespectful. They say it’s just words, but let them even think you as the teacher uttered a cuss, they have a heart attack. I remind them that dumb, stupid, retarded, etc are just words, and I don’t allow them to call each other that either.

I know times are changing and all, but basic respect should still be taught and expected. What are your thoughts?

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