When I was ready to dive back into the dating world many years ago, there was one problem: for the first time in my life, I didnât have extra money for dates. And it hit me hardâI had tied my self-worth to my wallet. Somewhere along the way, I believed girls only liked me for my money, and maybe thatâs why I was attracting the wrong kind of attention.
So, I got real.
Vulnerable, even.
After some flirty chats and plans for dates, Iâd nervously drop lines like, âHey, can we pay separately?â or âIâd love to go out, but rent wiped me outâletâs plan for a couple of weeks later.â Iâd make up stories to avoid saying I was broke.
I braced myself for rejection. But you know what? 90% of the time, theyâd say, âMy treat!â or âI didnât expect you to pay on the first date anyway.â It felt weird. Awkward, even. Iâd always paid. But during those dates, I realized something huge: I had way more to offer than just picking up the tab.
I could offer laughter, great company, genuine care, knowledge, and a memorable experience. Money wasnât my only value. When I finally did have money again, I saw certain âtypesâ of girls differentlyâbecause my worth wasnât tied to what I could spend on them anymore.
Guys, your value is more than your money. Dig deep. What else do you bring to the table? If you think money is the only thing you offer, think again. This could be why relationships fail or fall apart.
Even the rich and famous arenât immune, just ask Tom Brady đ
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Remember, knowing your worth changes everything.