May 17 in General discussion
Find Your Why The Easy Way - Just Pick From One Of The Following
Find Your Why The Easy Way - Just Pick From One Of The Following
People often tell you to “Find Your Why”.
If you are anything like me, you might overthink this, and get overwhelmed by the question.
It seems like you need this deep, abiding world changing, paradigm shifting, awe inspiring reason that emanates from the core of your being and powers everything you do.
That may be true for when you get stuck.
But you don't need that to get started.
I have found that it is much better to just pick from one of the following and get moving:
God told me to.
Avoid pain
Increase pleasure
It seemed like fun at the time
Just because I could
To rise to the challenge
To become a better version of myself
I was just curious and wanted to see what would happen
I was being driven or chased
To leave a legacy
It seemed like a way to make easy money
It looked like a shortcut to something else I want
My parents or somebody else in authority or that I admire told me to
I wanted to be like Mike
I was afraid of what would happen if I didn't
I saw someone in pain and wanted to help
I saw a need and wanted to fill it
Someone or something annoyed me and I wanted to stop the pain
These are all fairly shallow reasons to do something. That's okay.
Start with the shallow.
Figure out a deeper reason “why” if you need to later.
The key is to just take immediate action now.
Even a little bit of action like setting an appointment with yourself to revisit the idea and see if it still has merit can go a long way in helping you make your dreams come true.
Why do I say this?
Because you really only need a deeper “why” when you hit the obstacle that makes you consider giving up.
Until then, you can get started and power forward with just the shallow reason.
When you first think of doing something, there is a certain amount of power and purpose behind the idea.
You may not be able to articulate it well, or even at all. You just know that it feels like a good idea, so let's just start and see what happens.
That's ok, you may not consciously know why you're doing something, but your subconscious, your intuition, does.
So just get started. Get moving and see what happens.
Whether it actually is a good idea, or not, you'll find out soon enough
Don't hesitate and overthink things. Just act, and trust that God and His angels will take care of you.
As you are moving, you can steer.
Avoid obvious traps and obstacles, and go in the direction that seems good.
Ask God to guide you and He will.
He will provide for you too. Especially if it is something that He is calling you to do.
Just be obedient and go do what you feel inspired to do.
In fact, you may find that by acting in faith and while under the inspiration of the Spirit that you get quite a ways towards a goal before you even hit that big obstacle that makes you consider quitting.
Sometimes you may find that you, in fact, have so much momentum that you plow right on through any obstacles and you reach your goal before you get knocked out of flow.
This can happen if you have systems, tools, and teammates already in place that can pick up from where you leave off and finish it for you.
Or if you are with others who spur you on to achievement.
This is the whole point behind coaches.
They help you get where you want to be and win by:
developing a plan of action and achievement with you,
spotting things you may not be able to see yourself,
teaching you better techniques to deal with those things,
introducing you to resources and people who can help you,
and encouraging you to keep going til you win.
Use your coaches, systems, teams, and other resources to go as far as you can before you hit that big obstacle.
Then, you can pause and look again at the reason you picked for doing the thing.
You can see if it is still valid. Does it still hold?
Did you already actually accomplish what you initially set out to do?
Often times that is what actually happens.
You may not have completed the task from an outsider's perspective, but you did accomplish your personal goal.
People say that 90% of all new businesses fail in the first 5 years but that statistic is untrue and misleading.
They count as failures those businesses that do not stay in business for more than 5 years. They assume that every business founder has the goal of keeping it going for that long or longer.
While some founders may have that goal, most of the ones I talk to do not.
Most just want to make a bit of money, or see whether they like or can do something. They see an immediate need, start the business to fill it, then reevaluate things once they have done that.
Perhaps they want to keep going. Perhaps not. Perhaps they want to sell the business. Perhaps they just want to shut it down and move on to something else.
Whichever way they choose to go, most have already achieved their initial goal. So, whether their business continues or not, they would consider themselves successful.
So, when you hit that major roadblock consider whether you already reached your goal.
Do you need to pick another shallow reason or dig a little deeper to find the inner motivation to keep going to the next milestone or roadblock?
If so, then that's the time you may need a good “why”, or perhaps another new shallow one from the above list will give you all the inspiration and energy you need to go on.
But what if it's a bad idea?
You'll find that out soon enough.
When you do, you can stop, change your mind, change your direction, and ask for forgiveness if you need to.
That's one way to develop wisdom and experience that will keep you from making mistakes implementing the same kind of bad ideas in the future.
However, the bigger mistake is to not do anything at all. People at the end of their lives regret more the things they didn't do than the things they did.
So you are much better off if you just take action and move (even if it's in the wrong direction and you have to change direction once you find out) than if you are just sitting there doing nothing.
By taking action immediately, you put your energy to work and actually create something.
You may not finish that something in the first blush of your enthusiasm, but you will at least have something, even if it isn't finished or perfect. That something may be able to be used later for something else.
String together enough of these somethings and you may end up with an even bigger something that is truly amazing and useful.
For instance, while writing this I got the next answer to a question I had been pondering for awhile. (I say “next answer” because it may not be the final answer, it is just something I just need to go put into practice and see whether it will just work for me as-is or whether it needs to be refined).
So, when I got that epiphany, I quickly jotted down what came to mind, then came back and finished this article.
That way I ended up with two pieces of content instead of just one.
You may find yourself in a similar position. When faced with a potential distraction of an idea, just take a moment to jot down a quick note to yourself about it, then go right back to finishing the task you were doing. That way your head gets cleared and you can keep moving forward.
Later, after you finish the first task, you can revisit your notes and see what to do next.
Meanwhile, if someone tells you to figure out your “why” just ask them “why?” right back.
Most likely they will tell you that to help you keep going when things get hard.
They may never actually get hard though.
By just picking a shallow reason and raking immediate action, you may soon find yourself in a state of flow. Then nothing can truly stop you until you are done.
And by done, it may mean you are done with just the initial task, or it could be that you finish the entire project.
Either way you will have accomplished way more and be further along, and be much happier, than if you let yourself get caught in the navel gazing exercise of trying to figure out your deeper why.
That's been my experience.
What's been yours?
Let us know in the comments.
Maranatha!
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