I’ve found that people only care about who you say you are and what that means for them. Everything is a value exchange. Giving and receiving.
A healthy person likes balanced relationships of giving and receiving. An unhealthy person wants all personal profit.
I try to stay away from people like that. They try to drain my mana(my personal word for energy).
Instead I like to focus on being myself to the fullest every day. I don’t have a high level of self-consciousness, rather I just like to be aware of how people receive me. This prevents any insecurity from creeping in.
I also don’t compare myself to people whatsoever. This allows me to truly celebrate people for them, not for what they have or appear to be.
This is highly magnetic and naturally puts even the most anxious individuals at ease.
Letting people be themselves with you shows you who they truly are, and allows you to decide if that’s for you or not and Vice versa.
It’s all giving and receiving.