Reference Experiences Will Make You Better

Having female friends has changed my life. Most Recent Exhibit : https://www.skool.com/men-of-action-free/weekly-reminder-get-female-friends?p=5ce97137 . Its been incredible y'all just incredible.

But there are some downsides to having a lifestyle where women come in and out of your life especially if there are certain women you are emotionally invested in. A lot of these downsides I believe are due to lack of maturity - men who are not experieced enough are not mature enough to deal with the uncertainity that comes with this lifestyle.

The first time I had a "charge it to the game" event, I DMed Michael at 4am in the morning (this was last year btw) asking for a 1:1 😂 almost in tears.... Charge it to the game situations are painful but they are part of the game and important for you to learn from. Just yesterday, a girl I have dated before and am very attracted to messaged me how she is now in love with another guy. Typically when things like this happen, I double tap the message or reply "lol" or something and never exhibit any emotional response. I know that is what I NEED to do. However, I have still always had an emotional response to these situations even though I never show it to anyone.

Yesterday, when she sent me this message about being in love with another guy, I literally felt nothing. I just double tapped and replied to the next person in my DMs. I would have forgotten about the whole thing had she not replied to one of my stories today and I realized "Holy Shit, I didnt feel bad or jealous?!" I am so surprised at my response - I didnt spend any time thinking about her or how this "result" reflects on me (it most likely doesnt). I actually literally didnt react to it... This is HUGE for me btw, becoming actually unreactive to such situations has been a HUGE goal and no self talk or advice or book has been able to help..

Anyways the point I want to make is something

@Michael Sartain

told me in a 1:1 last year when I called him almost in tears - "Dude, You Need More Reference Experiences" More reference experiences make you more mature. It makes you desensitized to some of the bullshit that comes with having multiple women come in and out of your life. No "bro you need abundance" talk would have prepared me for this outcome. It took a few "charge it to the game" situations to become desensitized to them. Also your perspective changes when you get feedback confirming that you are playing an infinite game and not a finite game because that is really what life in general is for us.

So go take action and get those reference experiences - the good ones that make you feel like a king and the best thing since sliced bread and also the bad ones that tear your heart out and throw it on the ground. And find a coach or mentor like Michael or Anthony who can guide you through the ups and downs. DM me on IG (@vaibhavbillykumar) if you have more questions about MOA.

PS : If you are consistently getting the same undesirable outcome, you are most likely doing something wrong and its not really a "charge it to the same" situation. You need to close the feedback loop, assess the situation, make appropriate changes and move forward.

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