You don't experience the reality of your job, you experience your thoughts about your job
You don't experience the reality of your relationship, you experience your thoughts about your relationship
You don't experience the reality of your money situation, you experience thoughts about your money situation
When your thoughts = reality = you live in a world of suffering
When your thoughts are subjective = you live in a world of choice
When your thoughts are arbitrary = you live in a world of possibility
When your thoughts are illusions = you live in a world of dreams
Ultimately you aren't what you are, you are what you think you are, and that thought you can change
For more check out the inside out revolution by Michael Neill (2.5hr audiobook)