The Myth of the Inferiority Complex and Impostor Syndrome.

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Where, in your life or business, are you coasting on “good enough” when deep down you feel that itch—the one that tells you something’s missing?

It's time to let go of any ideas about Impostor Syndrome or believing there's any such thing as an Inferiority Complex.

They're completely made up and are only REAL if you believe they are.

Let me help by first asking you a powerful question....

Can you accept the possibility that you may not be showing up as powerfully as you could in your life and business BECAUSE you believe you might be inferior or an impostor?

What if these premises didn't actually exist?

What if they never did?

What if these ideas are completely made up? (AHEM: They are.)

This is not to say that someone, maybe even you, can have the experience of one or both of these things being true. However, whatever you BELIEVE is true for you, IS.

You may have even felt yourself to be inferior or as being an impostor, but does that make it true?

Is it more likely that you misperceived an experience you had because you compared yourself unfavorably to someone else and arrived at incorrect conclusions?

You see you can't have any experience of inferiority or arrive at some self-judgment of being an impostor unless it is being compared to someone or something that we believe is NOT THAT.

We often judge ourselves and measure our worth not against our own standards of what is normal, but by what we misconstrue about outside standards of normal imposed by other people.

There is no such thing as a universal standard of normal.

Yet, many of us are convinced we're not normal because in some or many ways, we don't measure up to some nebulous universal standard or even someone else's individual standard of normal that doesn't actually exist.

For instance, I am very, very good at tuning into a client and pinpointing the underlying root causes of whatever problem they're experiencing when they come to me with a symptom of that problem, causing them all kinds of mayhem. It is natural to me.

But if you ask me to teach a ballet class to professional ballerinas, I'm going to suck at it.

But only because I'm inferior at being a dance instructor. NOT because I'm an inferior person.

Therein lies the problem. The conclusions we've reached regarding our very identity based on things that just aren't natural to us are our own responsibility to clean up and dissolve.

Everyone on this planet is good at something.

Likewise, everyone on this planet is inferior at something.

It's where we start to equate identity and our worth with what we simply aren't very good at DOING as a label of incapability or false meaning about who we are BEING.

So, somewhere along the line, someone gave this false premise a name --Inferiority Complex-- and said it was real.

Somewhere, at some time, someone came up with the idea that comparing ourselves to others unfavorably created a SYNDROME of being inauthentic and fake (Yikes!! That sounds hard to heal!) and so we better make ourselves feel superior instead!

And then we have a host of new problems to contend with....

The truth about you is this:

You are not inferior.

You are not an impostor.

You are not superior.

You are just YOU.

And YOU, just YOU, in your snowflake frequency of uniqueness is not in competition with anyone for anything.

Because there is not one person who came before you, or who will come after, that is just like you.

You are not 'supposed to' be like anyone else.

There is no standard of normal or average or greatness.

There is no singular metric for success or achievement.

These are all mental constructs that lend themselves to believing in another false premise-- incompetence in being YOU.

Ain't no such thing.

Not a single person on this planet is better at being you than YOU.

Let this message resound through everything you grace with your presence this week and beyond.

And if you need a little (or a lot) of help this week, make sure to join my Masterclass presentation on Thursday, 11/21, Design your Extraordinary Life. Details in comments.

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