“I don’t even know who I am anymore.” · Skool Group Leaders Network

Chanin Zellner

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3d ago in Personal Development

“I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

“I don’t even know who I am anymore.” 😥

This is a common thought that women over 45 have when they’ve become empty nesters and begin to enter their Legacy Era.

If you’re like me, you spent decades taking care of children.

My identity became “Mom”. 🙍🏼‍♀️

Everything I did was scheduled around the children’s schedules, wants, and needs.

At one point, I had to quit my main job because my daughter was regularly sick.

I then worked 3 part-time jobs to bring in enough money to keep us afloat.

I delivered newspapers before my (ex)-husband went to work.

I did data entry at home.

And I babysat a friend’s child.

That was in addition to taking care of my 3 kids.

Eventually, I returned to working full-time.

And then I married my current husband who has 2 kids.

So we had 5 kids who were only 6 years apart! 🫨

Life was chaotic. I had little time for me.

And as time passed, I gave up all of my hobbies. I didn’t even read books anymore. 😥

My identity was totally wrapped up in my kids and my work.

And eventually I started my own business.

Now I also was taking care of clients and THEIR needs.

It felt like I was ALWAYS working.

Chanin and her desires and needs disappeared overall.

And if I DID do anything that was just for me (like taking an online college course), I felt guilty.

My life was about kids, my husband, and my business (making money.)

I’ll continue the story tomorrow.

I’d love to hear if any of you resonate with this scenario! ⬇️

And if you're ready to finally put YOUR needs first after decades of serving others, DM me about The DIVA Path - a 90-day hybrid program designed specifically for women like you — moms who have given so much to their families and are now ready to honor their own dreams.

Through transformative energy work and aligned guidance, you’ll remember who the f* you are, gain the clarity to balance your family with your purpose, and start creating a legacy that reflects who YOU are.

The doors are open. Will you have the courage to cross the threshold and walk through to your new life?

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