The key is perspectives brothers.
There is a problem smack in between the perspectives of both you and the woman.
Allow her the space to respectfully speak on her viewpoint.
Then you speak your perspective.
A lot of times, when this is done correctly you will realize that neither of you are right or wrong but rather seeing things from two different lens.
2+2 = 4
So does 3+1
The next step is to solve the problem between you together.
You as a man need to lead this entire interaction.